By the time you find yourself calling Lerato Mvelase’s number, you should be quite certain that your relationship is hitting the rocks. It’s never pretty to see and this week it was Phindile from Orange Farm who called the team at Seng’Khathele to help her out.
Lerato Mvelase made her way to Evaton in Orange Farm to try to understand what was about to happen.
15 years and still no ring
While there’s no official limit on the amount of time two people should date before getting married, 15 years seems far too long. Phindile and her boyfriend Tefo have been in a relationship for a decade and a half, having met in 2006. Everything was going well and she truly loved the way he treated her.
But as the years went by, their love affair began to simmer down. They were living together with two children. One of the issues in the relationship came when Phindile revealed that she was no longer sexually attracted to Tefo. She said that she no longer felt aroused by anything he attempted to do.
He seemed to be unbothered and introverted, and according to her, didn’t care about anything to do with their relationship.
Who’s dumping who?
Tefo presented himself as a shy and withdrawn person before opening up about both his and his girlfriend’s troubled past. He revealed that they both coped with emotional scars but that he still loved his woman and would like to marry her and get her her dream car and put their children through school.
It was at this point that Lerato revealed that she was moved by his story and felt as if it was Tefo who should be doing the dumping. There was no clear way that this was going to play out.
A tense sit-down
The two lovers sat down and Phindile wasted no time in getting to the crux of the matter. Phindile felt as if he no longer loved her, and Tefo explained his side of the story. Phindile pointed out her issues with him sexually, and some of the frustration that she held towards his mother.
Despite everything, Tefo still wanted to try to make things work, and pleaded with his partner. At this point, Lerato intervened and asked if Phindile was still keen to go through with the breakup. Phindile, as it turns out, had changed her mind about the whole thing.
The rest of the episode saw Tefo explaining the issues between the two of them, and at certain points, Lerato was also convinced that Phindile was in the wrong in certain areas.
In the end, the two did not break up. Lerato convinced both Phindile and Tefo to work on themselves and their relationship. It was great to hear that the show would be supporting them both in getting therapy and healing their wounds.