Sibongile and her husband, Itumeleng, have been having issues in their marriage. The couple met in 2016 and lobola was paid in 2019. However, they haven’t been able to get a house of their own and are now living in Sibongile’s family home. They are raising three children from Sibongile’s previous relationship. Their reason for reaching out to the show is to connect with their late parents.
Sibongile explained that she wanted clarity about her father’s death. “A part of me says he didn’t die in a good way. Then there’s my in-laws – like my marriage as a whole – things are not going well. So, I’m wondering what the problem could be,” she said. Itumeleng, on the other hand, wanted to connect with his late mother.
Whose house is it anyway?
The first thing Thembi asks Itumeleng is whether or not his late mother had acknowledged the marriage. “I don’t recognise Itumeleng’s marriage, and I don’t even know the place he’s in right now,” his mother said, speaking through the medium. She added: “I don’t even see him where I left him. She added that she was tired of looking for her son.
Itumeleng was then asked to explain whose house he was staying in and how he entered that home. “Because this home belongs to his wife’s family,” his mother said. Thembi explained that the late mother’s message revealed that when the couple got married, Itumeleng didn’t tell his mother about the marriage and that he lived with his wife.
The miscarriages explained
Itumeleng is asked to light a candle and pour snuff on a plate and speak to his late mother. “Itumeleng’s mother expressed that she didn’t like what was happening. Now, because we’re human and some of us don’t believe in ancestors, Itumeleng’s mother, to show her frustrations, she created miscarriages for Sibongile,” Thembi said, adding that every time Sibongile fell pregnant, her late mother-in-law took away her children.
She has had four miscarriages.
It was explained that Itumeleng’s mother didn’t want him to have children with Sibongile because she didn’t know her. “For you guys to be able to conceive and also for both of you to prosper and have your own home, your mother needs to be updated,” Thembi said.
Itumeleng was advised to build a home for his own family, instead of staying in another man’s house.
Fortunately, Thembi gave them a solution. Itumeleng and Sibongile were told to find an open field. “When we get there, both the mother and father of the children will dig. After that, you’ll rest the spirits of the children there,” Thembi said.
The couple did as they were told and Itumeleng’s late mother said she’d stop taking their unborn children.
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