This week’s episode of Date My Family was quite special in that it fell on 21 March, which, in South Africa, is observed as Human Rights Day. Although the public holiday wasn’t the theme of the episode, we realised that it served as an opportunity to educate people on the rights they are allowed to enjoy in the world of dating.
We met Soso, a young CEO who described himself as a “hard worker” who was looking for love in the form of someone with a sense of humour. Soso met with the families of Lelethu, Tehila and Lorato.
From the moment he introduced himself, we sensed that controversy would be round the corner and it didn’t take long for the streets to come after him. However, as we saw it, he was simply observing his rights to decide how and who he wants to date!
The right to a partner with no kids
We’ve been through this many times before, and asked why people judge men/women who already have children. Today we’re defending those who choose to date people without kids.
Here’s the thing: as long as you say it respectfully, there is nothing wrong with declaring that you’d prefer to date someone without kids. When Soso said that he didn’t want to be a stepfather, he didn’t do so rudely – nor did he condemn women who have had children out of wedlock. But the social media masses were not impressed with his rhetoric and claimed that he was mom-shaming women with kids.
But the streets immediately jumped to support him and defended his right to choose a partner who doesn’t have kids. Like it or not, it is his personal preference.
The right to self-respect
Was anybody else cringing during that third date? The families (and friends) on Date My Family are supposed to be helping their bachelorette find a date. Lorato’s male besties, however, seemed more intent on mercilessly grilling our unlucky single to the point where even we, as viewers, were feeling ridiculously uncomfortable watching it all play out.
But our man was cool as ice, even as the heat was turned up to the maximum and it all came down to one thing: self respect.
To the young ones out there, if you’re looking for a new partner in your life, one thing that will go a long way in your pursuit of love is self-respect, because people can only treat you the way you allow them to. And yes, that is a right as well!
The right to choose a bae
Of course, the most important right you get to exercise on Date My Family is the right to choose. More specifically, the right to choose a future partner. When it was time to pull up to the house of one lucky bachelorette, Soso left Lorato and Lelethu with nothing but a bottle of wine and a video for their efforts.
Instead, our boy used his right to choose when he selected Tehila, and the two prepared for a romantic first date.
The right to a second date?
Now, all of the rights that we have mentioned above should be guaranteed to anybody, but one right that isn’t always a given is the right to a second date. A second date is actually a privilege, and needs to be earned.
Luckily for these two, they were on the same wavelength throughout their adorable encounter and it came as no surprise when they agreed to go out again!
All the best to these two!